I've been told that I'm a cool/chill individual. The reason for this I believe is the fact that I basically can get along with anyone in any situation. I consider myself a social chameleon. On any given day you can observe 4 different Me's. These 4 sects include family, friends, work & relationship. In 1 day I can experience 1 or all 4. Some would take this as a gift not knowing the work that goes into this feat.
In keeping all sects separate you might lose your true self. Most times these separations are easily managed since some sects don't mix. In a perfect utopia I would want all sects to interact with each other for example: relationship should merge with friends & family. But what happens when issue arise within sects that can not be discussed with others. Family issues should not be discussed with work individuals and most relationship issue should be handled in house.
How can your true self be realized if throughout the day your not the same or allowed to express yourself freely across lines? Those who know me know I'm all about openness & honesty. I also try to make everyone happy which is my nature as a Cancer man. The problem arises when individuals within sects are naturally quiet, seem emotionless or choose to close themselves off and allow issues to fade (but still fester within & explode at a later time). So open individual has issue with closed person in one group but can not express amongst others. This leads to uneasiness, self doubt, loss of confidence & eventually unhappiness. These issues I can only handle alone until that party finds in themselves to open up. So while I wait I become closed off & pretend things are fine. When things are good I try to extend that positivity by not expressing the issue that might breed negativity.
One day we will resolve but til then I can not truly be honest within sects & bring the happiness each one deserves. I can not be who you need me to be, until I truly know who I am...
Good Shepherd Clothing
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Monday March 8th marked the release event for Good Shepherd x Shin Tanaka hosted at Las Chicas Locas (ground floor of the Four Seasons Hotel). The turnout was amazing at the low key inviting space.
Why is this important.. Good Shepherd was founded by one of my college classmates Rahim Babar in 2006. Its safe to say when people I know are doing big things I support. To see where he started and where he is at now shit is amazing.
Good Shepherd clothing is a product of his creative thought. Good Shepherd blends street trends with high-end fashion to provide quality product for the conscious customer. Good Shepherd clothing began as a small t-shirt company based out of New York City. In 2007, Good Shepherd clothing was picked up by high-end boutiques, mom and pop shops and retail stores.
For looks into these fresh designs check GoodShepherdWorld.com & check photos below.
Why is this important.. Good Shepherd was founded by one of my college classmates Rahim Babar in 2006. Its safe to say when people I know are doing big things I support. To see where he started and where he is at now shit is amazing.
Good Shepherd clothing is a product of his creative thought. Good Shepherd blends street trends with high-end fashion to provide quality product for the conscious customer. Good Shepherd clothing began as a small t-shirt company based out of New York City. In 2007, Good Shepherd clothing was picked up by high-end boutiques, mom and pop shops and retail stores.
For looks into these fresh designs check GoodShepherdWorld.com & check photos below.
Monetary Upswing During Economic Downturn
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Taken from FrshPulp.com (which I wrote)
An exclusive New Money lesson on saving money & making it work for you ... See theres a benefit to my 9-5
What’s my 1st step?
Your mattress can only hold so much funds, so first things first, open a checking and savings account. Why use a bank? Keeping your money in a bank is safe and convenient. They’re federally insured and take liability in case your funds are accessed illegally. A checking account will allow you to have the safety of the bank as well as access to your funds 24/7 through ATMs and online banking. Savings will be where your extra funds go to earn you interest.
How do I know which bank is best for me?
Any given day in NYC you can take a walk and see at least 15 different banks. I’m partial to one in particular but that’s just me. Most people choose based on proximity. Close to my house, job, whatever. You must dig a little deeper and these questions will help you decide:
An exclusive New Money lesson on saving money & making it work for you ... See theres a benefit to my 9-5
What’s my 1st step?
Your mattress can only hold so much funds, so first things first, open a checking and savings account. Why use a bank? Keeping your money in a bank is safe and convenient. They’re federally insured and take liability in case your funds are accessed illegally. A checking account will allow you to have the safety of the bank as well as access to your funds 24/7 through ATMs and online banking. Savings will be where your extra funds go to earn you interest.
How do I know which bank is best for me?
Any given day in NYC you can take a walk and see at least 15 different banks. I’m partial to one in particular but that’s just me. Most people choose based on proximity. Close to my house, job, whatever. You must dig a little deeper and these questions will help you decide:
- Is there a minimum balance to avoid monthly fees? All banks require a minimum opening deposit. Most banks also require a minimum balance to avoid fees. Avoid balance requirements and instead choose an activity driven account such as direct deposit, debit card purchases or online bill pay. Remember we’re trying to save.
- Are there ATM fees? The #1 fee paid by consumers to banks is the ATM fee. You must choose a bank that has accessible ATMs. Every bank charges fees for using another bank’s ATM, so find one that stands out.
- Does the account pay interest? Obviously you’re going to want free money so this is self-explanatory. Interest is more important savings account wise because that’s the account we need to grow. Every bank has a rate sheet so compare one to another.
- Is there overdraft protection? Overdrafting is the #1 issue consumers have with banks. It occurs when your purchases/withdrawals exceed your balance. This results in fees equaling hundreds of dollars. You must keep track of your balances. They will not do it for you.
- Is online banking available? This is necessary to account for your money wherever you might be in the world. Online banking allows you to receive alerts (texts, email) on your account, as well transfer funds when the bank closes for the day. It’s easy, straight forward as well as FREE!
Where do I go from here?
The next step is to get your finances in order. Primarily, your monthly expenses. Your balances can not grow if you spend more than you make. That LV bag and those Prada shoes can wait. You must eliminate debt, such as credit card balances.
- Figure out necessities and eliminate luxury – Phone, food, rent are necessary. Excess parties and new shoes to add to a closet full of shoes. Unnecessary.
- Make a budget – Total your monthly bills and make payments on time. Figure out what your daily living expenses are and make changes accordingly.
- Leave your self a cushion – Pick a specific amount – $50 or $100 – treat it like a no-spend zone. That way a small mistake won’t leave you broke.
- Increase savings – Funnel extra funds into your savings account. Rainy days are always around the corner, so you must be prepared.
- Stick to it! – The #1 issue people have with saving is will power. With so many credit cards out there and all those sales dipping into savings is dangerous. “Oh, I can replace the funds on my next check.” Yeah, until you see that credit card bill. One tip: forget you have a savings account. Out of sight out of mind.
There has to be a better way to make my money grow?
Whether you’re looking to save money for an emergency, dream vacation, new house, or education, banks and other financial institutions have a variety of accounts to help you meet your financial goals. Basic savings accounts allow you the ability to put money towards a specific goal and access your money when needed. But the old adage comes in, “scared money don’t make money.” Risk is inevitable, so a little must be taken to reach your financial goals.
Certificate of Deposit (CD’s) – A CD is an account where you’re provided a fixed rate of return over a specified amount of time. The risk here is that you can’t access these funds over that period. You must be willing to not touch these funds because a penalty will be enforced if the CD is broken.
Investment – Nowadays the word invest strikes fear into the heart of even the savviest investor. The risk varies based on stocks, bonds, mutual funds or a portfolio that contains all the above. Fees can be assessed upfront, over time or not at all based on holding period. For the recession weary consumer, banks offer customized solutions which allow you to diversify while having your account professionally managed. You receive the guidance you need while investing efficiently.
Future Planning
Now that you finances are in order and you’re saving some money, you have to start thinking towards the future. Retirement seems far away, but if you don’t start now when it’s time to retire you will be searching for part-time employment to survive.
Should you open a Roth IRA? A Traditional IRA? Or put a little money in both?
Generally, a Traditional IRA can be beneficial if you’re eligible to make deductible contributions, and you expect your tax rate during retirement to be lower than it is today. On the other hand, a Roth IRA may be a wise choice if you expect your tax rate to be the same or higher during retirement. The answer really depends on your unique situation. So contact a Financial Adviser to help you choose an IRA that’s right for you.
So what now?
Get your account in order, set a budget, prepare for the future, and don’t do it now—DO IT RIGHT NOW. Fixing finances helps financially as well as mentally. So go get that peace of mind.
True Haiti Relief
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Ever since the earthquake in Haiti happened on January 12th 2010 I have seen the true goodness within everyone. From endless events to raise money, to corporations & celebrities donating their ill gotten gains to just regular people I encounter wishing upon me & my family their blessings. It just makes you feel good to know you are in so many peoples prayers.
But that said I still feel bad for my people. To not knowing if those donated funds are going to get to people that most deserve them (lets be serious the Haitian government is not the most trustworthy, you think the politicians here are terrible...) to thinking even when they rebuild another disaster will come through and sweep us away again. They have suffered so much from multiple disastrous storms to a 7.0 quake right into a 6.0 & numerous aftershocks.
With all that said comes a story that shows true leadership & an offer that can not be matched by any other country. Senegal's President Abdoulaye Wade called for Africa to make room for victims of Haiti's earthquake to restart their lives on the continent. Truer statements could never be said:
"The repeated calamities that befall Haiti prompt me to propose a radical solution -- to take measures to create somewhere in Africa... the conditions for Haitians to return."
"They did not choose to go to that island," (referring to the mass deportation of African slaves to Haiti, then a French colony, from the 16th century.)
"It is our duty to recognise their right to come back to the land of their ancestors."
This offer amazingly is not the 1st of its kind. Back in the 19th Century the African state of Liberia was created by freed U.S. slaves. In 1847, 25 years after the first successful colonisation, they proclaimed an independent Republic, which they named Liberia.
I believe this offer should be taken seriously as well as moved along as a responsible measure. I have yet to visit the nation of Haiti but I feel very drawn to it & I cant help but feel that it may be cursed. Of all the nations in the Caribbean it seems to be hit with disaster after disaster & to have family there and know at any moment they ca all be washed away it puts a hole in your heart. I see the worry in my mothers face, I feel the pain in my friends hearts & something must be done.
If standards aren't changed in Haiti, from government to construction to jobs to social divide, Haiti will be no more & all the donations & heartfelt offers like those from the Senegal President will all be for naught. Haiti is beloved by the my Haitian people but who will love us enough to truly help...
But that said I still feel bad for my people. To not knowing if those donated funds are going to get to people that most deserve them (lets be serious the Haitian government is not the most trustworthy, you think the politicians here are terrible...) to thinking even when they rebuild another disaster will come through and sweep us away again. They have suffered so much from multiple disastrous storms to a 7.0 quake right into a 6.0 & numerous aftershocks.
With all that said comes a story that shows true leadership & an offer that can not be matched by any other country. Senegal's President Abdoulaye Wade called for Africa to make room for victims of Haiti's earthquake to restart their lives on the continent. Truer statements could never be said:
"The repeated calamities that befall Haiti prompt me to propose a radical solution -- to take measures to create somewhere in Africa... the conditions for Haitians to return."
"They did not choose to go to that island," (referring to the mass deportation of African slaves to Haiti, then a French colony, from the 16th century.)
"It is our duty to recognise their right to come back to the land of their ancestors."
This offer amazingly is not the 1st of its kind. Back in the 19th Century the African state of Liberia was created by freed U.S. slaves. In 1847, 25 years after the first successful colonisation, they proclaimed an independent Republic, which they named Liberia.
I believe this offer should be taken seriously as well as moved along as a responsible measure. I have yet to visit the nation of Haiti but I feel very drawn to it & I cant help but feel that it may be cursed. Of all the nations in the Caribbean it seems to be hit with disaster after disaster & to have family there and know at any moment they ca all be washed away it puts a hole in your heart. I see the worry in my mothers face, I feel the pain in my friends hearts & something must be done.
If standards aren't changed in Haiti, from government to construction to jobs to social divide, Haiti will be no more & all the donations & heartfelt offers like those from the Senegal President will all be for naught. Haiti is beloved by the my Haitian people but who will love us enough to truly help...
All American Racism
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So the other day I was forwarded an article from the Augusta Chronicle regarding a new basketball league that was to set up shop down south. It is known as the All-American Basketball Alliance & it intends to start its inaugural season in June and hopes Augusta will be one of 12 cities with a team.
I said hmmm new basketball league coming after NBA dollars. Didn't we learn from the CBA & USBL? Well whatever, whats another league right? Well this one has a small twist... It is to be of rosters made up exclusively of WHITE Americans. Oddly enough it didn't have a warm welcome.
Here is a few quotes from commissioner of the AABA, Don "Moose" Lewis (c'mon look his nickname)
"The reasoning behind the league's roster restrictions is not racism"
"There's nothing hatred about what we're doing, I don't hate anyone of color"
"People of white, American-born citizenship are in the minority now. Here's a league for white players to play fundamental basketball, which they like."
"We wants to emphasize fundamental basketball instead of 'street-ball' played by 'people of color' "
"We need a local person ingrained into the community to make this successful"
"The white game of basketball, which is essentially a fundamental game, works"
I am gonna make this short and sweet, there is no other basis to this man starting this league other than racism, point blank. It can only come from hate to associate "streetball" with people of color. Does the NBA at times have players who shy away from fundamentals to go toward more flashy plays yes. In today's game there is a need for both styles. & the most successful NBA players have had a nice mix.
For this man to say that White people are a minority is true but only sports wise but that's there fault. They haven't moved with the times as well as you could of just left us in Africa & we would of been good. No one wants to watch pure fundamental ball, that shit is boring plan & simple. You do not see Princeton University basketball with any shine on national television.
Lastly he has no sense of basketball history. From John Havlicek, Bob Cousy, Pistol Pete Maravich & Larry Bird, these were some of the most flashy ball players ever & influenced the likes of Earvin "Magic" Johnson, Isaiah Thomas, Kobe Bryant & Lebron James. (definitely check the links for highlight reels)
This type of news story needs to not even see the light of day in this day & age but alas this is what gets headlines. What do you think: Racist or a money making idea???
I said hmmm new basketball league coming after NBA dollars. Didn't we learn from the CBA & USBL? Well whatever, whats another league right? Well this one has a small twist... It is to be of rosters made up exclusively of WHITE Americans. Oddly enough it didn't have a warm welcome.
Here is a few quotes from commissioner of the AABA, Don "Moose" Lewis (c'mon look his nickname)
"The reasoning behind the league's roster restrictions is not racism"
"There's nothing hatred about what we're doing, I don't hate anyone of color"
"People of white, American-born citizenship are in the minority now. Here's a league for white players to play fundamental basketball, which they like."
"We wants to emphasize fundamental basketball instead of 'street-ball' played by 'people of color' "
"We need a local person ingrained into the community to make this successful"
"The white game of basketball, which is essentially a fundamental game, works"
I am gonna make this short and sweet, there is no other basis to this man starting this league other than racism, point blank. It can only come from hate to associate "streetball" with people of color. Does the NBA at times have players who shy away from fundamentals to go toward more flashy plays yes. In today's game there is a need for both styles. & the most successful NBA players have had a nice mix.
For this man to say that White people are a minority is true but only sports wise but that's there fault. They haven't moved with the times as well as you could of just left us in Africa & we would of been good. No one wants to watch pure fundamental ball, that shit is boring plan & simple. You do not see Princeton University basketball with any shine on national television.
Lastly he has no sense of basketball history. From John Havlicek, Bob Cousy, Pistol Pete Maravich & Larry Bird, these were some of the most flashy ball players ever & influenced the likes of Earvin "Magic" Johnson, Isaiah Thomas, Kobe Bryant & Lebron James. (definitely check the links for highlight reels)
This type of news story needs to not even see the light of day in this day & age but alas this is what gets headlines. What do you think: Racist or a money making idea???
Maximize The Effort
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I will be collecting donations all weekend long to help out with the effort over in Haiti. This cause is dear to me because these are my people & I still have family over there that are unaccounted for.
Thanks to good people over at my parent company JPMorgan Chase whatever I collect will be matched by this gracious company on top of the $1,000,000 they have already pledge to this cause.
Check out American Red Cross:Corporate Giving so you can know that this is legit.
Here is their official statement:
On Jan. 12, 2010 Haiti was struck by a magnitude 7.0 earthquake. Hundreds of thousands of people were injured and displaced by this disaster. The need for aid is large and immediate. JPMorgan Chase has committed up to $1 million in disaster aid to address this calamity. JPMorgan Chase will match employee contributions to The American Red Cross and CARE up to a total of $250,000. Please give generously to help now.
I am accessiible everyday if you wish to contribute & double your generosity. Any denomination is acceptable & appreciated. I will travel to collect. Get in touch with me:
Email: robert_fortune@hotmail.com, strechman1@gmail.com, robert.x.fortune@chase.com
Cell: 347.528.3088
Twitter: @NewMoneyFortune
You can also definitely deposit to my Paypal use email address : robert_fortune@hotmail.com
Thanks in advance, wish the year started off differently but we cant change the past just affect the future.
Haiti Relief Collborations In NYC
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Taken from my homie Carrie Pink's blog ... Please take note she is doing something wonderful.
HI EVERYONE!!!
Ok Pretty World Inc has joined forces with students from SIX different schools and TWO other organizations to facilitate a major outreach in NYC to collect, pack, and ship Relief Items to Haiti as soon as possible.
To dispel the rumors. Yes it is almost impossible to ship anything to Haiti right now as an INDIVIDUAL, so OF COURSE THE FIRST COURSE OF ACTION IS TO DONATE MONEY TO A REPUTABLE ORGANIZATION, Email me for a listing, Once you donate what we are doing is aggregating items together across all the participants and working to organize a mass pick up and ship to Haiti VIA The Bedford Haiti Association in Brooklyn who is working directly with THE RED CROSS, one of the few organizations allowed to export at this time.
We will also be reaching out to AMERICACARES.ORG regarding their ability to SHIP.
Additionally we have been in contact with Councilman Mathieu Eugene in Brooklyn and Manhattan Deputy Borough President Pierre-Louis for their political support of our efforts. Below is a list of approved AND NECESSARY items to ship.
CLOTHING:
Sneakers
HI EVERYONE!!!
Ok Pretty World Inc has joined forces with students from SIX different schools and TWO other organizations to facilitate a major outreach in NYC to collect, pack, and ship Relief Items to Haiti as soon as possible.
To dispel the rumors. Yes it is almost impossible to ship anything to Haiti right now as an INDIVIDUAL, so OF COURSE THE FIRST COURSE OF ACTION IS TO DONATE MONEY TO A REPUTABLE ORGANIZATION, Email me for a listing, Once you donate what we are doing is aggregating items together across all the participants and working to organize a mass pick up and ship to Haiti VIA The Bedford Haiti Association in Brooklyn who is working directly with THE RED CROSS, one of the few organizations allowed to export at this time.
We will also be reaching out to AMERICACARES.ORG regarding their ability to SHIP.
Additionally we have been in contact with Councilman Mathieu Eugene in Brooklyn and Manhattan Deputy Borough President Pierre-Louis for their political support of our efforts. Below is a list of approved AND NECESSARY items to ship.
CLOTHING:
Sneakers
Socks
Underwear - BRAND NEW (AND FEMININE HYGIENE PRODUCTS)
Baby clothing - anything you have
SHELTER:
Sheets
Blankets
Towels
Tents
Tarps
POWER:
Candles
Flashlights
Flashlight Batteries - D Cell
Matches/Lighters
Underwear - BRAND NEW (AND FEMININE HYGIENE PRODUCTS)
Baby clothing - anything you have
SHELTER:
Sheets
Blankets
Towels
Tents
Tarps
POWER:
Candles
Flashlights
Flashlight Batteries - D Cell
Matches/Lighters
Lanterns + Lantern oil
MEDICINE:
Rubbing alcohol
Hydrogen peroxide
Iodine
Bandages
Gauze
Aspirin
Soap
Baby diapers
If you have items to give please contact Carie Pink or Mekaelia Davis. The Bedford Haitian Community Center has asked that items arrive packed in barrels already ready to ship to help expedite the process so if you only have a small amount of items please contact us so we can compile them with items from others.
Additionally we will be accepting items Saturday January 16th at Columbia University, Uris Hall 1st Floor from 10am to 3pm, that's 116th and Broadway in Manhattan, during the Pretty World Inc Seminar
Sunday January 17th some friends of mine from Hunter College will be driving around picking up donations throughout the city from people who want to give but cannot bring to Columbia on Saturday.
Monday January 18th there will be a Disaster Relief Drop Off box at Hunter College, 3rd Floor, Thomas Hunter Building. Locations of the drop off stations at other schools will be released as the information becomes available.
Please email or call me if you would like to help by giving donations, packing barrels, driving to help pick up items or would like to collaborate your efforts with ours!! There is power in numbers people!
askcarriepink@gmail.com
347-623-4964
MEDICINE:
Rubbing alcohol
Hydrogen peroxide
Iodine
Bandages
Gauze
Aspirin
Soap
Baby diapers
If you have items to give please contact Carie Pink or Mekaelia Davis. The Bedford Haitian Community Center has asked that items arrive packed in barrels already ready to ship to help expedite the process so if you only have a small amount of items please contact us so we can compile them with items from others.
Additionally we will be accepting items Saturday January 16th at Columbia University, Uris Hall 1st Floor from 10am to 3pm, that's 116th and Broadway in Manhattan, during the Pretty World Inc Seminar
Sunday January 17th some friends of mine from Hunter College will be driving around picking up donations throughout the city from people who want to give but cannot bring to Columbia on Saturday.
Monday January 18th there will be a Disaster Relief Drop Off box at Hunter College, 3rd Floor, Thomas Hunter Building. Locations of the drop off stations at other schools will be released as the information becomes available.
Please email or call me if you would like to help by giving donations, packing barrels, driving to help pick up items or would like to collaborate your efforts with ours!! There is power in numbers people!
askcarriepink@gmail.com
347-623-4964
Injustice Served
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So once again I come across a story that involves one party's tale over another that land the latter in jail. And once again it involves a man imprisoned for a crime he didn't commit due to the lies of a female.
Recently read a story of a man who was locked up for 4 years because a woman said she was raped by him. According to her touching testimony she lied to friends, doctors, police, prosecutors, grand jurors and jurors about how the man and his friends kidnapped her from her parked car when she was blind drunk and attacked her. Apparently what actually happened was she had gotten into a car with the man and his two friends and kissed him -- but grew afraid after she blew off his further advances and he erupted in anger, cursing at her and threatening to dump her out on the street (which is where she belonged). After he dropped her back to her friends she told them she was raped because her friends were upset she had left them with no warning. So instead of looking like a flat leaver she sent a dude to jail. Hmm seems rational. Based almost solely on her testimony, he was given 20 years in prison and spent the past three years serving time. This man is only out now because she told her priest who forced her to tell the DA. Even after all this the man is not upset with the woman & praised her for coming forward finally. A better man than me I suppose...
I cant help but be upset at this situation since it is known that a woman's word is worth gold against a man in almost any situation where she is deemed hurt by said man. This dude was put away with no evidence, no rape kit, no eyewitnesses. Shit is sad cuz it could have been any man. These stories keep popping up and innocent men keep being put away especially if they are part of a minority group or had some type of run in with the law previously (damn on both counts for me).
Other such cases included the Hofstra freshman who dropped 4 men in jail with her wild reckless story of being raped in a bathroom all because basically she didn't want her man to know she was a huge freak. (Twisted Motive Behind Rape Story).
Or the well accounted for story of the Duke Lacrosse team (Duke Lacrosse Case). As we all know the 2006 Duke University lacrosse case was a scandal that started in March 2006 when student at North Carolina Central University who worked as an exotic dancer and escort,accused three Duke University students of raping her at a party. The accuser was black and the three lacrosse players were white. Many involved in the case, including the prosecutor, called the alleged assault a hate crime or suggested it might be one. Obviously she was lying and the lives of these three men were never the same.
Unfortunately most of us don't learn the lessons we are taught at a young age like don't cry wolf. These women believed they could get away with these lies because no one believes a man when rape is involved. I mean look at Kobe Bryant (Bryant Assault Case) even thought he was unfaithful he was no rapist. I mean how could he be his accuser kept multiple semen samples in her panties. The point is until women such as these are prosecuted as harshly for their perjury as the men are for these alleged rapes this epidemic will continue. It gets to a point where you cant just pick up a woman for a decent fling without having some people over to watch to protect your ass ... literally. These men are out of jail but who really knows how many innocent others are actually behind bars for rapes that didn't occur due to these well rehearsed stories that make many shed a tear at the plight of liars.
Recently read a story of a man who was locked up for 4 years because a woman said she was raped by him. According to her touching testimony she lied to friends, doctors, police, prosecutors, grand jurors and jurors about how the man and his friends kidnapped her from her parked car when she was blind drunk and attacked her. Apparently what actually happened was she had gotten into a car with the man and his two friends and kissed him -- but grew afraid after she blew off his further advances and he erupted in anger, cursing at her and threatening to dump her out on the street (which is where she belonged). After he dropped her back to her friends she told them she was raped because her friends were upset she had left them with no warning. So instead of looking like a flat leaver she sent a dude to jail. Hmm seems rational. Based almost solely on her testimony, he was given 20 years in prison and spent the past three years serving time. This man is only out now because she told her priest who forced her to tell the DA. Even after all this the man is not upset with the woman & praised her for coming forward finally. A better man than me I suppose...
I cant help but be upset at this situation since it is known that a woman's word is worth gold against a man in almost any situation where she is deemed hurt by said man. This dude was put away with no evidence, no rape kit, no eyewitnesses. Shit is sad cuz it could have been any man. These stories keep popping up and innocent men keep being put away especially if they are part of a minority group or had some type of run in with the law previously (damn on both counts for me).
Other such cases included the Hofstra freshman who dropped 4 men in jail with her wild reckless story of being raped in a bathroom all because basically she didn't want her man to know she was a huge freak. (Twisted Motive Behind Rape Story).
Or the well accounted for story of the Duke Lacrosse team (Duke Lacrosse Case). As we all know the 2006 Duke University lacrosse case was a scandal that started in March 2006 when student at North Carolina Central University who worked as an exotic dancer and escort,accused three Duke University students of raping her at a party. The accuser was black and the three lacrosse players were white. Many involved in the case, including the prosecutor, called the alleged assault a hate crime or suggested it might be one. Obviously she was lying and the lives of these three men were never the same.
Unfortunately most of us don't learn the lessons we are taught at a young age like don't cry wolf. These women believed they could get away with these lies because no one believes a man when rape is involved. I mean look at Kobe Bryant (Bryant Assault Case) even thought he was unfaithful he was no rapist. I mean how could he be his accuser kept multiple semen samples in her panties. The point is until women such as these are prosecuted as harshly for their perjury as the men are for these alleged rapes this epidemic will continue. It gets to a point where you cant just pick up a woman for a decent fling without having some people over to watch to protect your ass ... literally. These men are out of jail but who really knows how many innocent others are actually behind bars for rapes that didn't occur due to these well rehearsed stories that make many shed a tear at the plight of liars.
Privacy
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As many of you know there has been a popular story regarding Tiger Woods in the media lately. I personally was a little tired of hearing about it already since I dont know the man. But my take was requested by a loyal reade so the story goes like this:
- During Thanksgiving week Tiger Woods was involved in a car accident around 2:30AM. Homeboy was dashing down his driveway and ended up hitting a hydrant. And he didn't just hit a hydrant and tree. He crossed over a curb, onto a grass median and hit a row of hedges before driving into the hydrant and tree. His wife Elin, apparently had to bash out his back window and pull him to safety. By the time cops came neighbors were around & he was slipping in & out of consciousness. Cops took it as a routine accident.
Now this was all well & good till the media got a hold of this. In the days past leading up to Tiger now saying that he has had "trangressions" against hs family & that he regrets with "all of my heart." "I have not been true to my values and the behavior my family deserves." What lead to him making this statement about his private life. Lets list the media reports shall we:
- First it was said that there was extramarital affairs by Tiger & domestic violence within his household (unclear from which party).
- Then it was said his wife was chasing him with the golf club and she bashed the whip.
- Then several papers stated that he has been & continuing to sleep with Rachel Uchitel. She flat out denied it & had a 2 page story in the NY Post that really was an extended phrase of I didnt fuck him... She get the side eye
- Then more women come out saying they slept with Tiger including some chick who was on Tool Academy on MTV & some chick who has voicemails of Tiger calling her, telling her to take her name off her voicemail & texts saying he would give her the business.. BOOM!
- Now apparently his wife called one of his side pieces & said "You know who this is because you're fucking my husband"
Today I was on my Twitter & this topic had the tweeps all in a buzz with trending topics such as "sidechickawareness" & "why men/women cheat". Alot of it was hilarious & actually some good tips apparently. But some where just giving info away that wasnt neede to be known bout them.
And this is where I make my point on privacy. Homeboy is a human being, he's not some sideshow that we look to for giggles and laughs. Infidelity is a huge problem nowadays. Regardless if he is sleeping with or slept with these women thats his life and him & his wife have to work through that, not them & America. When Joe down the block fucks some next chick shit aint news. And now shorties & dudes on Twitter putting they business out there. Just keep your life yours & let others mind theirs.
Lastly my take on it is nigga was arguing with his wife, he was upset shorty chased him around the crib, she grabbed his 9Iron, he split, she pursued, he tried to get in the whip & she took some swings, homie tried to break down the driveway & he crashed. Honestly where the hell else you goin at 2:30 in the AM but to catch a bootycall or split from ya crazy ass spouse on Thanksgiving.
50 Best NBA Slam Dunks
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The big NBA fan that I am I just had to post this. The crew at Complex Magazine has compiled the 50 best dunks of all-time into one tight little package.
Now this being their opinion there is going to be debate, so don't get excited for the rankings
Would of served them better if they compiled the best 50 in no particular order (I'm particularly fond of #4 & #11 but that's just me) with that in mind, check out Complex's list of the 50 Best NBA Slam Dunks, a collection of humiliating, in-your-face jams.
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Book Spotlight: Mode One
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People always say "you should read more". Honestly my ADD will not allow me to sit and read books if they don't interest me. My interest include basketball, music, women & money not necessarily in that order. So imagine my disgust when my boy hit me up telling me about a book he just read. I was skeptical but in the end it solidified the conversations we were having regularly.
What book could have peeked my interests so well? Mode One (Let The Women Know What You're REALLY Thinking) By Alan Roger Currie.
If you search this book on Amazon its listed under Psychology & Counseling and grouped with many other "How To" dating books. This book is so much more. There are many books on the market that profess to teach men how to attract and seduce "any woman they want to" or "any woman they meet." this book makes no such "hyped up" claims. Currie's approach is all about upfront, straightforward honesty combined with non-manipulative, highly self-assured behavior.
Mode One teaches men that sometimes, being rejected by women is actually a good thing. Especially if that woman is nothing more than a highly skilled manipulator looking to waste a man's time, and take advantage of him financially. We all know women like this and the sooner you can identify this type of woman you can get closer to avoiding this hassle.
The biggest lesson to be learned in Mode One is that men should avoid playing the role of the "well-mannered nice guy" in the hopes that their pleasant, lenient, overly-accommodating, and ultra-flattering behavior will be somehow rewarded later on with a woman's romantic and/or sexual companionship. Everyone knows that women don't want "nice" men, and men don't want women to use them. This book shows you the effective way to communicate which can be used not only to attract women but in your everyday life. Men & women have manipulative personalities.
I myself have never been one to be shy on saying whats on my mind. I have been blessed with avoiding those women (or people in general) that are looking to just get a free ride or pass some time with a guy that they are not interested in. Like the lyric goes, when you see the snakes in the grass then you lean on they ass, so when I feel like someone is trying to use me I put them in they place. I thoroughly enjoyed this book because it just put in perspective the way I normally do business. Honesty has always and will be the best policy.
If this book interests you can check it on Amazon (FYI there's a PDF version that can be downloaded on the net, LimeWire & Torrents for you intellectual thieves - cant post that here don't need another case...)
Click Here To take A Peek Inside The Book
Get To Know You
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How can you expect someone else to give you what it s that you want when you don't even know yourself?
I am a big advocate of relationships... healthy relationships. I also am deathly afraid of being alone. From as far back as I can remember I craved companionship. Maybe being the last born of 3 children & being the only boy, maybe growing up with a distant father in the house I just needed that attention. I clinged to other family members and absorb their circles as my own. The more attention the better. As I grew up this need allowed me to be taken advantage of cuz I felt their happiness was more important than my own. It lead to me either dealing with multiple women or me dropping everything important to me for that one selfish woman. Once out of that situation I had 4 years to my self. That lead me to understand what it was that truly made me happy. Yes I still had women in my life but it was on my terms, no advantages no disadvantages. Now I feel ready to give my all to another woman cuz I'm happy with myself, flaws & all.
This little back story is due to a convo I had with a good friend. She is currently in another potential destructive situation. She has a man, he doesn't treat her as she should be, he doesn't open up to her & he uses her. She has another suitor but he isn't good for her either cuz he has a family. While we spoke I commented that she needs to not be with anyone else. That was met with some opposition. The reason I gave her such advice is cuz she doesn't actually know herself. She has been in back to back to back long term relationships that end up awry. She's contemplating cheating on dude, which is what usually happens to her. Trust is big & she doesn't even trust herself enough to be faithful. I believe a little time away from needing that other person to express how they feel bout her (whether physical or emotional) would do wonders and allow her to explore how she feels bout herself. As we all know women are attention whores & it comes about from having qualms about themselves. Once she becomes truly happy with herself then the choice can be made from potential suitors who truly have her best intentions in mind. Now that I'm happy with me, I want to make my significant other smile as much as I do inside.
So what do you think ... Is being alone that unbearable if the time spent leads you to true happiness in the end???
I am a big advocate of relationships... healthy relationships. I also am deathly afraid of being alone. From as far back as I can remember I craved companionship. Maybe being the last born of 3 children & being the only boy, maybe growing up with a distant father in the house I just needed that attention. I clinged to other family members and absorb their circles as my own. The more attention the better. As I grew up this need allowed me to be taken advantage of cuz I felt their happiness was more important than my own. It lead to me either dealing with multiple women or me dropping everything important to me for that one selfish woman. Once out of that situation I had 4 years to my self. That lead me to understand what it was that truly made me happy. Yes I still had women in my life but it was on my terms, no advantages no disadvantages. Now I feel ready to give my all to another woman cuz I'm happy with myself, flaws & all.
This little back story is due to a convo I had with a good friend. She is currently in another potential destructive situation. She has a man, he doesn't treat her as she should be, he doesn't open up to her & he uses her. She has another suitor but he isn't good for her either cuz he has a family. While we spoke I commented that she needs to not be with anyone else. That was met with some opposition. The reason I gave her such advice is cuz she doesn't actually know herself. She has been in back to back to back long term relationships that end up awry. She's contemplating cheating on dude, which is what usually happens to her. Trust is big & she doesn't even trust herself enough to be faithful. I believe a little time away from needing that other person to express how they feel bout her (whether physical or emotional) would do wonders and allow her to explore how she feels bout herself. As we all know women are attention whores & it comes about from having qualms about themselves. Once she becomes truly happy with herself then the choice can be made from potential suitors who truly have her best intentions in mind. Now that I'm happy with me, I want to make my significant other smile as much as I do inside.
So what do you think ... Is being alone that unbearable if the time spent leads you to true happiness in the end???
Battle Scars
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There are reasons to why people give the advice of never do what doesn't make you happy. Happiness is a rare and treasured thing. Without it you are just a shell being pushed by the waves and swells of life.
Everyday you are tested and challenged. Once you feel you have passed then comes another & another till you just feel like whats the point. But you must persevere through the tribulations. Many a time I believed I failed only to be blessed with what I longed for. For years I yearned for that brass ring that seemed so far till this past October when I was at my lowest I reached up & grabbed it & I will never let go. Finally happiness but alas it didn't last long... My trials at work I have documented but I must take you back to '05 for you to understand why my heart pains for a job most wouldn't give 2 shits about.
Back in '05 I was living at home, recent Baruch grad, unemployed but very much in love. So in love was I that the dreaded M word danced in my head. Yes marriage. Now the upstanding gentleman that my mother raised me to be I knew that I had to do right by my future bride. Cant get married sleeping on a twin bed can you? So I pursued employment with all the time I had. I mean trips to LI everyday for interviews, combing the job sites all cuz I had a ring to buy& to find a place for me & mine. One day I went up to Baruch to see my beloved and my boy told me of the employment he just secured. Salary, commission, benefits - all that a husband needs. The company JPMorgan Chase. So I went to this interview like all the others, confident & assure. Met the Branch Manager (hell of a lady) then the District Manager (big time douche). I still remember that day, I was asked to sell him my watch & by the end he was trying to take it off my wrist. Job secured, got my girl - happy. Fast forward a lil - training done but girl lost. Sent to a my branch in Greenpoint for my 1st official day. From day one I had to deal with trails from racism to people not liking me cuz I tell it how it is. When the racism came to light I was asked if I wanted a transfer but the loyal dude I am I said no cuz I would have been abandoning the one person who allowed me to get my life on track. I mean cuz she chose me I was able to increase my savings 9 fold. I'm talking low 4 figures to high 6 figures. As time went on I increasingly got happy again- women here & there but I was able to do anything I wanted, buy what I want & get my place.
Fast forward to '09... economic downturn leads to Chase changing focus. They say they out to help the customer but its all about dollars. Again chance to leave but I stay cuz my loyalty comes into play. By this time I have a core of customers that depend on me. I have helped so many people either set their lives up or turn it around that I get thanked to this day from 3 years ago. Should I look at these people as dollar signs? If there's no commission should I just chuck em from my desk. That's not me. I took this job cuz I wanted to make a difference in peoples lives & I feel I have. Now full circle cuz I'm being targeted by a racist manager who will stop at nothing till all the minorities are out. I returned from vacation 10/23 to find out she was actually telling my co-workers she wanted me out. I mean WTF...
From family members with life threatening diseases to getting arrested to an abortion to almost losing that special girl '09 started rough & progressively gotten worse & now I may start '10 outta work... No bueno
But through this all I have had the admiration & well wishes of many close to me that have kept me sane. I stay strong for them cuz we equally need each other & I cant be selfish by abandoning them... I am battle tested & I will win out in the end.....
Everyday you are tested and challenged. Once you feel you have passed then comes another & another till you just feel like whats the point. But you must persevere through the tribulations. Many a time I believed I failed only to be blessed with what I longed for. For years I yearned for that brass ring that seemed so far till this past October when I was at my lowest I reached up & grabbed it & I will never let go. Finally happiness but alas it didn't last long... My trials at work I have documented but I must take you back to '05 for you to understand why my heart pains for a job most wouldn't give 2 shits about.
Back in '05 I was living at home, recent Baruch grad, unemployed but very much in love. So in love was I that the dreaded M word danced in my head. Yes marriage. Now the upstanding gentleman that my mother raised me to be I knew that I had to do right by my future bride. Cant get married sleeping on a twin bed can you? So I pursued employment with all the time I had. I mean trips to LI everyday for interviews, combing the job sites all cuz I had a ring to buy& to find a place for me & mine. One day I went up to Baruch to see my beloved and my boy told me of the employment he just secured. Salary, commission, benefits - all that a husband needs. The company JPMorgan Chase. So I went to this interview like all the others, confident & assure. Met the Branch Manager (hell of a lady) then the District Manager (big time douche). I still remember that day, I was asked to sell him my watch & by the end he was trying to take it off my wrist. Job secured, got my girl - happy. Fast forward a lil - training done but girl lost. Sent to a my branch in Greenpoint for my 1st official day. From day one I had to deal with trails from racism to people not liking me cuz I tell it how it is. When the racism came to light I was asked if I wanted a transfer but the loyal dude I am I said no cuz I would have been abandoning the one person who allowed me to get my life on track. I mean cuz she chose me I was able to increase my savings 9 fold. I'm talking low 4 figures to high 6 figures. As time went on I increasingly got happy again- women here & there but I was able to do anything I wanted, buy what I want & get my place.
Fast forward to '09... economic downturn leads to Chase changing focus. They say they out to help the customer but its all about dollars. Again chance to leave but I stay cuz my loyalty comes into play. By this time I have a core of customers that depend on me. I have helped so many people either set their lives up or turn it around that I get thanked to this day from 3 years ago. Should I look at these people as dollar signs? If there's no commission should I just chuck em from my desk. That's not me. I took this job cuz I wanted to make a difference in peoples lives & I feel I have. Now full circle cuz I'm being targeted by a racist manager who will stop at nothing till all the minorities are out. I returned from vacation 10/23 to find out she was actually telling my co-workers she wanted me out. I mean WTF...
From family members with life threatening diseases to getting arrested to an abortion to almost losing that special girl '09 started rough & progressively gotten worse & now I may start '10 outta work... No bueno
But through this all I have had the admiration & well wishes of many close to me that have kept me sane. I stay strong for them cuz we equally need each other & I cant be selfish by abandoning them... I am battle tested & I will win out in the end.....
Support: Bizzy-Free Lunch
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First & foremost shoutout to the dude Bizzy
I have been blessed to know this dude & seen his hustle.
Words from the man:
- Free Lunch" the mixtape from BiZZY! became available for download Oct. 31 at www.BlackGeniusInc.com. Be one of the first to witness the real. The mixtape is authentic in that it is meant to capture the emotions that we all juggle on a daily basis. "Free Lunch" will be the soundtrack for that late night train ride and early morning bus trip alike. It encompasses the struggle that we all turn into triumph and it highlights both our failures and successes because these things are what makes a free lunch...free. This is for him, her, them and us. R U BiZZY?
Check the site: BlackGeniusInc.com
Link for download: Bizzy -Free Lunch Mixtape
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