Choices

Thank God October is almost over. Thinking of taking a trip to PR or a special trip to Jamaica. But before that can be done Ive had a situation on my brain. Take a read:

• There was a guy who had a relationship with this girl. They met thru unconventional means and had a spark since the first conversation. 1st time they saw each other was at his home & she slept over. They didn't fuck til he took her out (cuz she let him know that was the only way). Time passed and they grew closer. She was the type of girl who had many things going on in her life (school, design, unfulfilling job) & maybe a lil immature. He is the type who is established but has side hustles & is extremely honest. He told her honestly how he felt bout her and what it took to be his. She decided to ignore those things or look past them cuz of her busy schedule. But in the same breath she constantly accused him of seeing people behind her back & being a male whore. He couldn't fathom where the accusations came from especially since he always told her of his other jumpoffs. She always said he was all about sex but they had nothing else to build on since she never had time. She was extremely attractive (tall, long legs, nice behind, pretty face) so he never apologized for wanting to hit it when he saw her. She eventually couldn't handle the way things were but building past that stage would be difficult. He considered her as a future & she did special things for him but never gave him what he truly needed. Time. Its like having a long distance relationship within the same borough (Asinine). She left. Time passed, life went on. He decides to see if she is OK cuz he believed they were still friends. Never did he think she would have been keeping a secret. She tells him that she was pregnant for him & decided to have an abortion. He was upset that she didn't even give him a call to let him know even though it is ultimately her decision. The kicker on this story is the baby was 4 months in the womb... She says she didn't know (side eye).

Should he be upset? Should he want to never to see, deal or hear from her again?

Me personally, I believe your life is a destined path. The choices you make right or wrong lead you down the line. You are who you are supposed to be. The issues that arise are to teach you lessons along the way. Problems arise when people outside of your path make choices that affect you. Its like that movie "The Butterfly Effect", one choice leads to another & your future just might change drastically.

People tell him not to be upset cuz it probably wouldn't have worked out between them & basically that's why she made the choice she made. It is her body & her life but some choices don't only effect you but also those around you & the ones you say you care for. She could have at least called him & had a discussion. Maybe things would have changed. You cant assume he would be a deadbeat or that problems would arise between you two. Lets not forget 4 months is far along in a fetus' development. Who would agree to such a thing. Do me a favor hit Google & check photos of what is going on inside a woman's womb after 4 months. Hell check 3 months. (Google Images)

Now he cant help but feel that maybe his life has changed drastically & things would be & will be different. What if he never has kids? What if he has just one & that child grows up resentful that they never had a sibling? Long shots... hmm possibly but everything is possible. What if she lying? What if she made it up? What if she actually has the kid? Ahh forever questions.

Life lesson: never assume what could or couldn't be. Always be honest, upfront & real. People may surprise you...