Groupie Love

So here we go again. Another reality show (can there be any other form of television). This time it focuses on wives/girlfriends/divorcee's of NBA (in some cases wannabes) players. Its different but yet very similar to any other reality show. Take a look below:


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I recently read a newspaper article reviewing this show and I couldn't help but laugh to myself. It gave me the run down of the particulars but what caught my eye was the reasoning of executive producer Shanie O'Neal. Basically her point was to show that these women are more than just women attached to NBA players and they have their own dreams & aspirations. Why would I laugh?

1. I know it was just a trailer for the show but I knew the show would mostly involve them drinking & partying. They don't have kids? I know Shaunie popped out 5 of them.
2. If we all know Shaq is divorced & why he is divorced why does she still keep his name. For the fame? publicity? or just because no one would care if she used her real name?
3. They talk about all these groupies out to get there men & these groupies should have some self respect & not allow a man to pay their rent or take them on trips... One of the stars of the show is a dancer who dates random NBA players. Cmon... lets be serious the reason your with these men (especially Erik Williams or a Michael Olowaknandi) is for the fame, gifts & houses on the beach.

This is just another show that's good for entertainment but not for self achievement. If this is the life future stars like John Wall have to look forward to just go the Derek Jeter route... Stay single. But if you don't at least VH1 will be there to chronicle your downward spiral.

Lost

I've been told that I'm a cool/chill individual. The reason for this I believe is the fact that I basically can get along with anyone in any situation. I consider myself a social chameleon. On any given day you can observe 4 different Me's. These 4 sects include family, friends, work & relationship. In 1 day I can experience 1 or all 4. Some would take this as a gift not knowing the work that goes into this feat.

In keeping all sects separate you might lose your true self. Most times these separations are easily managed since some sects don't mix. In a perfect utopia I would want all sects to interact with each other for example: relationship should merge with friends & family. But what happens when issue arise within sects that can not be discussed with others. Family issues should not be discussed with work individuals and most relationship issue should be handled in house.

How can your true self be realized if throughout the day your not the same or allowed to express yourself freely across lines? Those who know me know I'm all about openness & honesty. I also try to make everyone happy which is my nature as a Cancer man. The problem arises when individuals within sects are naturally quiet, seem emotionless or choose to close themselves off and allow issues to fade (but still fester within & explode at a later time). So open individual has issue with closed person in one group but can not express amongst others. This leads to uneasiness, self doubt, loss of confidence & eventually unhappiness. These issues I can only handle alone until that party finds in themselves to open up. So while I wait I become closed off & pretend things are fine. When things are good I try to extend that positivity by not expressing the issue that might breed negativity.

One day we will resolve but til then I can not truly be honest within sects & bring the happiness each one deserves. I can not be who you need me to be, until I truly know who I am...